Am I bigger than her?
I ask my husband
As a woman passes on the street
Am I bigger than her?
I ask myself, as I walk into the room
Measuring up all the women
Am I bigger than her?
I look at a picture of younger me
A “memory” on Facebook from years ago
Am I bigger than her?
I am asking:
Am I less attractive?
less powerful?
less likable?
less worthy than her?
Comparing myself to her size
And her size
And her size
If I’m bigger than her, then I’m less than her
If I’m smaller than her, then I’m more than her
And her size and her size and her size
My self worth going up and down with each comparison
Scoring points in a game against myself
There’s always someone bigger
And always someone smaller
There’s no winning this game
It’s just reducing women to their size
Aren’t we bigger than that?
~Nina Manolson
Nina Manolson, MA, is the founder of Body-Peace®.She helps women end the war with food and body and finally feel truly at home in their body—as it is.
She is known for her deeply feminist, anti-diet, body-peace® approach. She brings her 30 years of experience as a therapist, Body-Trust® Guide and Psychology of Eating Teacher to helping women create a respectful and trusting relationship with their food and body.
Nina’s Body-Peace® work is all in service of helping people get off the diet roller-coaster, and into a compassionate and powerful way of eating & living which creates a positive long-lasting change in and with their bodies. Her courses, coaching, poems and Body-Peace APP positively change the conversation that women are having with their body.
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