Body Hopping

Body Hopping

BODY-HOPPING Her body is tall and lean It’s better in her body All the clothes fit All the people love her more She loves herself more Her body is petite and buff It’s better in her body All the yoga clothes fit just so She posts pictures of herself She walks with...
My marriage…to my body

My marriage…to my body

MY MARRIAGE…TO MY BODY “Most of us are going to have 2 or 3 marriages or committed relationships in our life, And some of us are going to do it with the same person.” Esther Perel I’d say my husband and I are in our 3rd marriage to each other. We’ve been married for...
Summer body-shame

Summer body-shame

SUMMER SHAME It creeps up with talk of bikini bodies It shows up with moms hiding behind kids in the vacation pics It stays invisible but deeply felt in the resistance of “I don’t want go to the beach or that pool party, with everyone in their bathing suits.”...
Bathe in these words

Bathe in these words

I NEED TO BATHE IN THESE WORDS She said… I need to bathe in these words. They are new. They are unfamiliar I don’t yet know how to float and breath and soak in these new words. Words that remind me That my body is loveable as it is That my body is worth caring for...
I feel fat…

I feel fat…

  I FEEL FAT   Sitting in my therapist’s too-soft sofa I’d exclaim with deep despair.   I feel fat   And patiently, week after week she’d say:   If you weren’t feeling fat, what would you be feeling?   It took me months to understand the question.   What do...
Did you divorce your body?

Did you divorce your body?

DID YOU DIVORCE YOUR BODY?   What I want to say to you if you divorced your body somewhere along the way and don’t know how to reconnect.   I want to say… I  get it.   I divorced my body early on. I was 9, when my body started to feel like it wasn’t a...